There was once a time, a time when we lived as clans and tribes, where women contributed as much as 70% to the food on the table. The woman was not only the main source of food, but she was also a mother, family caretaker and the social-glue of society. Many cultures across the world, cherished her as the fertility itself and some clans across Europe, 1.5 millennia ago, even imbued her with angelic wisdom, power and an essence of higher-order in society than that of men.
How that voice was attenuated, and even to a degree lost over the centuries, and how we men got to pull all responsibility onto our side, I don’t know. All I know is that I don’t like it. That we men get blamed for everything that goes wrong today is a consequence of our actions, which logically, and embarrassingly, we have to accept!
Personally, I feel there is just too much pressure on us men to be ‘the provider’. The word ‘provider’, a person who earns money to support their family, should be abolished. Or we should just leave that up to God to be.
Firstly we have a derogatory feeling around the word support and secondly, we desperately value money. Money from a good source and good intention has positive energy and we need more of that. But the desperate value we attach to the word money unavoidably hands power over us to other people, who should not have power over any one of us, especially not a woman. She should be standing in her own power because that is also from whence healthy relationships are built.
I would be ok were the definition of ‘the provider’ to be a person who brings value to society. That would make the intuitive woman, mother, and wife, grounded in her purpose and standing in her voice be of higher value to society, even than that of the man, at least in my eyes!
Our desperate attachment to money, plus the derogatory feeling we have around the word support, make the definition of “the provider” toxic to society.